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END OF SEMESTER 5 Thursday 14 January 2016 | 0 Possible[s] Pejam celik sekejap je masa berlalu.. dah dua tahun berlalu, and sem depan praktikal, n then abis degreeeee!! yeayyy! hehhe tapi sedih jugak la nak tinggal kb ni, nk tinggal housemates tercinta, n paling sedih nak tinggalkan kondo ni. heh nanti petang2 nak lepak mana, nk berangan mcm selalu lepak kat balkoni, rase angin fefeling titanic. nanti takde da nak rase camtu.. huwaaaaa sedihhhh!Alhamdulillah, selama dua tahun, masih mampu berjuang mengejar impian.. hopefully takde lah subjek yang tersekat. heeee rase debor pon ade jugok nak masuk alam pekerjaan ni.. semoga dipermudahkan segalanya... Emm, ape kate pegi topik kawin plak? hah gatai no kau aini.. takde lah, tak terpikir nak kawin dalam masa terdekat ni. dulu ade lah jugak angan2 nk kawin lepas abis degree ni. pikir2 balik, tak payah lah kot nk kawin bagai. lagi2 lepas tengok cerita lelaki curang pagi tadi. haha drama sangat kau aini.. oklah, rase malas la nk bercerita panjang2. mood tak sampai lagi. hahah. okay, chaww! HOW CAN I BE A SPEAKER, LIKE YOU? Sunday 27 September 2015 | 0 Possible[s] How Can I Be A Speaker, Like You? How did you get that unbelievable keynote/speaking slot/invitation? What can I do to get on the TED stage? How can I be a speaker, like you? Those were 3 questions from the last month from Yes & Know members. Instead of answering these questions one at a time in emails, I thought to do the answers as a “request” post. [Not quite Cheryl Strayed “Dear Sugar” column, but one has to start somewhere…] Another question, people often ask is, ‘how do you come by it so naturally?’ That question is quite funny, if you’re me. I’m 47 years old. My first “major” talk was when I was 19 years old, with ~ 200 people, in Sacramento California at a Embassy Suites Hotel conference room with bright fluorescent lights. That’s nearly 30 years to “come by it, naturally”. So, my first lesson is… Start practicing, and never stop. Not only do I remember that early venue, I also remember what happened: I mostly read my ideas. That reading just happened to be standing up, and behind a podium microphone. What this illustrates is that you build up capabilities, through experience. Long, slow experience, in my case. Today, after each talk, I name just one (1) thing that I want to do better next time. Just one because I can remember, and act on it. And, not 20 because I’ll never nail it, if I try and do 20 all at once. But do one at a time, and over a period of experiences, it adds up. While it sucks in the moment, naming the thing that failed lets you improve upon it. You might remember, I wrote a “what I learned from my TEDtalk failure” on Harvard Business Review, no less. Why do this? Because, to get good at the cycle of learning / unlearning / repeat, you gotta admit to not-knowing. You gotta name it, to not be afraid of it. Invest in it. When I was already committed to give my next talk on the main TEDstage, albeit a short 3-minute one, I spent a day and $1000 in a workshop on speaking aiming to land the opening line. Think about that. 1 day for 1 line. During that day, with Heather Gold facilitating, I went to bat 4 times for 3 minutes a-piece, with a smallish group of 8 people. And this was not just an investment of time or money. It was an investment in humility, as I was vulnerable and raw while things didn’t work. It worked out well, having launched a meme, inspired Stanford to do new research and so on. For the idea I’m working on now? I just spent several days (and thousands of dollars) going to SXSW to speak as one of 12 designated “Featured Speakers”, along with Larry Lessig, Eric Ries, Bryan Stevenson, Reshma Saujani, Sarah Lewis of the Rise, etc. I wrote about that experience, here. I used the opportunity to develop entirely new stories, new visuals, new metaphor, and then delivered my best effort to date on this idea of Onlyness. I used a “free” venue of sxsw (they weren’t paying me to be there), because I would never ask a paying client to give me a chance to rehearse. And, talking to myself in my bathrobe, is not the most effective a way to think out an idea. So, knowing I wanted to beta test the thinking, I used SXSW as the venue to do it. Count up the travel, hotel, and graphic artist time, that talk alone was $10K out-of-pocket easy. I mention the expenses not to be tacky, or vulgar… but to give this topic of investment some dimensionality. Certainly, you have to give the time to develop an idea, but there’s loads of other expenses in “having the honor” of doing a TED or SXSW talk. My graphic-designed gorgeous deck I use for my professional speaking today? $40K for the first iteration of it, and I’ve lost track of how much money I’ve spent over the years adding to it, and refining it. Oh, and how did I get that talk at SXSW? or TED? I got asked. And before you glamourize that, go back and read the “invest in it” paragraph (above). More opportunities show up, the better you practice. Of course, I did raise my hand to do several free talks at SXSW for years before I got asked to do a featured speaker spot. So, I’m not saying you don’t have to pitch yourself, but the thing about “the big moment” is it follows a ton of little moments. Any big moment is like a dollar that materializes after you’ve put in nickle-after-nickle not knowing if or how it’s going to pay off. In other words, don’t look for a magic moment, or breakthrough… We, as a society, are enamored with the idea of one “tipping point” of success, but forget to realize that’s a construct created in retrospect, to tell a simple and heroic story, of a complex and messy reality. Serve. And, let’s remember that speaking is not an end unto itself. It’s a way to further your life’s work, your mission. My speaking — for well over 5 years now — has been about how to make ideas powerful enough to make a dent. Speaking advances this mission: Having new (and often underrepresented) voices at the table, because it matters to innovation. To leaders because I get them, and because they can be the ones to celebrate onlyness. Why collaborative practices, are key to curate greatness and win in the marketplace. Speaking, in other words, is a method, a way to create a shift. Not the only way, but one way. And it is not for fame, but to serve the purpose. Quite often when people are asking, “how can I be a better speaker”, what they are unclear about is who they are serving and why. Get clearer on your intention, and align your actions behind that. And related, focus on the impact of the community you’re there with, not on yourself. Get out of your head, out of your ego. Even though I am someone who researches and has evidence behind all my ideas, it’s not about “my proof” as much as it is about “their experience”. The other day I watched a speaker talk about his brand, and such but very little was relevant to the audience. They had to do a lot of work to figure out what part of what he said was for them. Mostly he was there pitching why his company rocked. But to serve the audience is different … remember it’s about others, and how you are serving an idea, and connect it to those you came to address. My speakers bureau in the US, Speakers Spotlight, has a phrase: A speech may last 60 minutes. Its impact can last forever. Impact only happens when you understand how to deliver impact giving that audience, and their context and to step outside of you wanting to be seen a certain way, and move to what they need from you. If you’re lucky, you share your idea with such passion and it connects so deeply, that the audience steals it for their own and starts to spread it with vigor. But if you go into it with the focus on that outcome, not in service to others, your idea never spreads. Weird, right? Wanting to have your idea spread is a little like the Sorcerer’s Stone in Harry Potter; if you want it for yourself, you can never have it. Study the art. My husband says he can’t sit next to me anymore at conferences because I mutter to myself about what other speakers are doing. While I sincerely hope this isn’t true, I worry it is. This, like so many things, can be studied… Some ideas for doing so: Go to conferences. Corporate venues don’t tend to serve this goal for a variety of reasons. But cross-functional events, do. For example: Watermark in Silicon Valley, PopTech in the East Coast, Wired in London, DLD in Germany, The Art of series in Canada, and MIT are venues known for organizing fresh ideas, and fantastic speakers. Cross-functional venues are important because the speaker has to get beyond jargon and the domain knowledge, and that always leads to the speaking itself being important. Books. I know there are tons of books (!) on this topic, some of which I’m sure are good. What are your favorites? The ones I turn to are by Nancy Duarte who nails the structure of speaking. She literally won an Oscar for best slides, when Al Gore got one for Inconvenient Truth. And I am looking forward to the upcoming book by Gina Barnett, who coaches TED speakers. She’s coached me twice and I’ve learned a great deal from her. Some of her tips from her upcoming book, here, and get her full book here. Corporate Speakers Primer: For those wanting to serve a corporate audience, I was struck with the wisdom of Liz Wiseman in this piece by Dorie Clark: especially to “staple yourself to the problem”. It’s why I’ve priced my workshops ~ the same as keynotes. It’s how I can bring my 20+ years of operational experience to working in depth with a team on their real-life collaboration challenges. In my experience, a transformation isn’t created by one speaker mesmerizing others with a clear idea, it’s in the conversation that ensues between the team, and the ensuing decision they make together. My workshop design enable that conversation to happen. And, a Conference Speaker primer: Laura Fitton wrote about how to land a conference talk, so I’ll turn it over to her for “how to land a speaking gig at the conference of your dreams”. I hope any / all of that is helpful, and if you wish… you’ll be a SuperStar. *** The #1 mistake any of us make in navigating the #socialera? Doing it alone. So, let’s learn together — what do you think makes a great speaker? Who are your favorites, and why? Any questions you have, other resources you want to add, or comments to make. Let’s help one another do better, be better and make our ideas big enough to dent the world. SEMESTER LAST Wednesday 9 September 2015 | 0 Possible[s]
sedar tak sedar, masa berlalu begitu pantas. and sekarang aku dah masuk sem last sebelum praktikal. yeayy! it's a quite tough, subjek sem ni semua 4credit, semua susah. semoga diberi ketabahan melalui sem ni. awal2 sem ni azam die byklah yg positif. last2 nk final nanti kite tgklah ade lagi ke tak azam tu (hehehe harap terus kekal lah azam tu)..
sem lepas tak dapat dekan, sedih jugak lah. sebab tahu tu salah sendiri, main2 n tak study sungguh2. ha hambek kau! kan dah kecewa.. tapi still bersyukur dgn apa yg Allah dah bagi, Alhamdulillah.. harapnya sem ni tak kecewa lagi.. i'm trying to be a good student. tapi tu lah, awal2 lagi dah skip byk kelas, hehe.. it's not a good way to start your new semester aini, yes i'm know it (saya takkan ulanginya lagi,hik3)..
sapa kata senang belajar ni? makin tinggi makin susah taw. hakak ni tak sabar nak abiskan degree ni taw dik. pastu kerja, pegang duit sendiri (boleh soping, melancong, etc) gila kau tak happy! pastu bila dah puas hidup sendiri, kawin lah pulak. sweet2 dgn asben, pastu cerita dapat anak plak, jadi ibu mithali, anok dah beso kena pikir duit nak sekolahkan anak2 tinggi (eh macam dah jauh je cerita ni) hahaha.. ape2 pon, harap impian aku akan tercapai. harap dapat senangkan mak abah (tetiba sedih kalau bab mak abah ni, sob sob sob)....
okay, let's fighting for the 5th semester aini! you can do it. just think positive okay? smile and forget all your problems.. :)
JIKA PERPISAHAN ITU LEBIH BAIK Monday 6 July 2015 | 0 Possible[s]
Perpisahan. Clash. Break up. Putus.
Pernahkah anda semua mengalami situasi ini?
Mungkin inilah perkataan yang sangat
menyeksa jiwa kebanyakkan daripada kita. Kita merasakan ini adalah satu
“musibah” yang sangat besar, yang sangat menyesakkan dada, yang mudah
sekali untuk menjatuhkan butiran air mata.
Kita tidak ingin melepaskan seseorang ketika begitu banyak saat-saat indah bersamanya, yang sentiasa terbayang di benak kita.
Kita tidak ingin melepaskan seseorang
ketika kita takut tidak dapat menemui yang seperti dia lagi dan kita
merasakan hanya boleh bahagia dengannya sahaja.
Kita takut, apabila berpisah dengannya, kita tidak akan ada sesiapa lagi.
Ada juga
diantara kita yang terpaksa memutuskan hubungan atas dasar keluarga yang
tidak merestui. Tidak sama taraf, perbezaan agama, faktor jarak dan
pelbagai lagi alasan yang kita tidak mampu kawal.
Dan yang paling baik dan terpuji bagi
saya, adalah mereka yang memutuskan sebuah hubungan cinta kerana ingin
menjaga agama dan maruah diri dari fitnah dan dosa cinta.
Namun saya pasti, setiap terjadinya
“putus hubungan” ini, pasti diiringi dengan air mata, kesedihan,
kemurungan dan rasa kecewa. Kalau tak banyak, mesti apa juga secebis
perasaan ini even sedikit.
Tapi ia tak pelik pun, normal. Tiada
manusia yang tidak sedih dengan sebuah kehilangan. Mana ada manusia
yang mahu kebahagiaannya hilang.
Tetapi mengapa kita perlu bersedih berlebih – lebihan?
Apakah alasan utama yang kita untuk
terlalu sedih untuk sesuatu yang masih tiada hitam putih, yang masih
ghaib. Lagikan orang yang sudah berkahwin pun boleh bercerai.
Kenangan? Kerana terlalu banyak saat
indah bersamanya? Hidup ini bagaikan putaran roda, jangan menyandarkan
hidup kita hanya kepada kenangan.
Mungkin pada waktu lalu kita gembira
bersama dia, tetapi sekarang adakah kita masih gembira? Dan apa yang
pasti, masa depan belum tentu menjanjikan rasa bahagia seperti masa
lalu.
Dan kesedihan yang sedang kita lalui ini, tidak selamanya akan begini. Percayalah, kita akan temui bahagia setelah diuji untuk bersabar. Setiap kehilangan ada pembelajaran yang membuat jiwa makin dewasa.
Atau mungkin menjadi sebuah proses untuk
melepaskan sebuah ego dalam diri. Di saat kehilangan, kita jadi
meringkuk seperti bayi yang tak punya kuasa.
Kita harus melepaskan seseorang kerana kita tahu jika Allah mengambil sesuatu, Dia telah siap memberi yang lebih baik.
Kata orang bijak, manusia tak memiliki apa-apa kecuali pengalaman hidup. Kita sedar kita tak pernah memiliki apa-apa pun, kenapa harus tenggelam dalam kepedihan yang berlebihan ketika kita kehilangan?
Takut untuk Memutuskan cinta.
Ini lagi satu masalah yang menghantui
kebanyakkan orang. Takut untuk meminta kata putus. Memang susah untuk
memutuskan cinta dengan seseorang apatah lagi jika dia pernah dekat dengan kamu. Tidak mahu menyakiti dan tidak mahu orang yang mendendami.
Sebelum itu, apa yang menyebabkan kita
patut memutuskan hubungan? Putuslah jika orang yang kamu suka itu
seorang yang fasik, tidak melakukan solat, mengajak kamu melakukan
maksiat, tidak memberatkan agama.
Juga putuslah jika cinta ini melalaikan kamu dari Allah, pelajaran, ibu bapa.
Jangan teruskan hubungan dengan orang
yang tidak serius dengan sebuah perkahwinan. Suruhlah dia datang jumpa
ibu bapa, Jika dia betul – betul dengan anda. Janji mulut sahaja tak
cukup, kena tunjuk usaha. Percayalah, cinta selepas nikah itu lebih indah.
Saya ulang sekali lagi, cinta selepas nikah itu lebih indah.
Memutuskan. Perkara sukar tetapi
sebenarnya mudah, kesulitannya hanya kerana kita enggan menyakiti
seseorang. kalau hubungan itu menjurus ke arah dosa dan kelalaian, maka
putus sahaja.
Jangan takut menyakiti hatinya, kerana
dia hanya mengajak kita kearah kemaksiatan. Yang mana kita pilih, samada
menyakiti dia ataupun menyakiti Allah?
Takdirkanlah yang terbaik untukku apapun keadaannya dan jadikanlah aku redha dengannya.. amin.. TAKDIR Thursday 18 June 2015 | 0 Possible[s] Rasanya dah lama tak menulis dalam blog ni. as usual, I'm very busy with my study, tests, presentations and assignments. dalam masa seminggu lagi aku akan menghadapi final exam, tapi masih tak sedar diri. masih di awang awangan, memikirkan banyak benda. kadang2 rasa stress, kadang rasa bosan, kadang rasa emotional. entahlah, aku sendiri tak tahu ape yang hati aku nak.TAKDIR. ape itu takdir? pernah tak kau salahkan takdir tuhan atas ape yang jadi pada kehidupan kau? ye, aku pernah salahkan takdir, even i'm know it is wrong. takdir tuhan, siapa kita untuk persoalkan? you think Allah akan bagi semuanya indah untuk kau? kau salah. ujian yang Allah bagi tu tanda Dia sayang kau. Dia rindu kau, Dia rindu nak tengok tangis kau padaNya, Dia rindu doa kau. TAKDIR. there are reasons behind what had happen. kau mesti percaya tu! sama ada kau nampak atau tak je hikmah sebenar ujian kau tu.. orang nampak pada luarannya kau kuat, tapi sebenarnya hanya kau yang tahu kau kuat atau tak. tapi percayalah, Allah takkan bagi ujian yang hambaNya tak mampu nak hadapi. sebesar besar masalah kau, ada lagi yang hadapi masalah lagi besar dari kau. kau rasa dunia ni tak adil? kau silap. Allah tu Maha Mengetahui, Maha Pengasih dan Penyayang. Dia akan bagi yang terbaik untuk hambaNya, sama ada cepat atau lambat je. TAKDIR. bila kau dah usaha sedaya upaya kau, tapi tetap Allah tak menyatukan. kau suka dia, kau dah buat semuanya untuk jadi perfect. tapi dia masih tak boleh terima diri kau. kau rasa sampai bila kau akan jadi bodoh tunggu dia sedangkan dah memang takdir kau bukan dengan dia. satu je, plez move on and plez try open your heart to another man who is more better than him. just forget the pain, the memories, and start a new life. maybe your happiness not with him, but with another man who can make you smile everyday, who can take care of yourself, who can make you feel that this world is only for both of you. oh bilalah nak jumpa jodoh camni ye? hahaha.. So the conclusion, just go on with your life. make something that can make you happy. just believe Him, and percaya pada takdir. and kalau betol dia bukan jodoh kau and kau sayang dia, doakanlah untuk kebahgiaan dia. mungkin kebahgiaan dia bukan bersama kau. bila mana kau mampu untuk doakan kebahgiaan dia dengan orang lain, bermaksud kau dah sedia untuk lepaskan dia, dan kau dah belajar apa itu 'redha' dan apa itu 'takdir'. The end. HATI DIKECEWAKAN DAN DITOLAK?? Friday 15 May 2015 | 0 Possible[s]
CERITA TENTANG KITA Thursday 14 May 2015 | 0 Possible[s]
Waktu terasa semakin berlalu
Tinggalkan cerita tentang kita Akan tiada lagi kini tawamu Tuk hapuskan semua sepi di hati
Ada cerita tentang aku dan dia
Dan kita bersama saat dulu kala Ada cerita tentang masa yang indah Saat kita berduka saat kita tertawa
Teringat di saat kita tertawa bersama
Ceritakan semua tentang kita
Ada cerita tentang aku dan dia
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